Heart to Heart Counseling
'Not Tonight Honey, I Have a Headache'
Create Healthy Sexual Relationships
Overcome Your Traumas and Addictions
Thursdays 4:00pm PT
Dr. Robert & Dr. Mitra
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Mitra Rashidian, PhD, LMFT, ACS
Robert Jaffe, PhD, LMFT
(818) 745 – 1014
(818) 906 – 7079
'Not Tonight Honey, I Have a Headache'
‘Heart to Heart’ in conjunction with ‘21st Century Sexology’, proudly presents our show entitled: 'Not Tonight Honey, I Have a Headache'. What we all desire is to feel love for and by our significant others. Our goal in this show is to improve and enhance the quality of couples’ relationships, through intimate communication and romance.
To achieve this, our show offers examples taken from our counseling practices, plus critical insights into creating and maintaining extraordinary sexual relationships. We also take a deep dive into core issues such as trust and safety, that often becomes barriers to intimacy. Underlying conditions like co-dependency, addictions, and traumas, will also be discussed.
Here are some of the loving sexual relationships values that we encourage:
Emotional and physical safety (I need to trust that you will take good care of my tender heart).
Consent and assumptions (Your consent is too valuable for me to make assumptions).
Integrity (I can always trust you to both keep your word and act in both our best interests).
Self-expression, giving & receiving what is needed in the moment (We will express the truth of our minds and hearts without manipulation).
Compassion, caring, physical and emotional availability (We will do our best to understand both what we feel and why we each feel that way).
Mindfulness (We will stay aware, and recognize the changes in our moods, and act accordingly).
Forgiveness (I will be slow to anger and quick to forgive).
Willingness to change (I am happy to change when it is done in the service of my growth and our love).
Non-possessiveness (We do not own each other, nor do we wish to).
Open to discussion are the following subjects affecting our ability to be sexually and emotionally intimate:
Listening to understand as opposed to Listening to convince.
Listening to understand contrasted with listening to be right.
Needing to be right, versus wanting to relate.
Becoming non-judgmental (I am better than you/ I know better than you do!).
Using curiosity to foster empathy (Tell me what it is like to be you).
Accountability (I apologize sincerely when I have hurt you because I care about you and I understand what it feels like to be hurt).
Fostering joy and appreciation (I look for, and comment on the wonderful things that you do and are).
Developing clear boundaries (I don’t project my feelings, thoughts, or beliefs onto you).
Truthfulness and authenticity (We can rely on each other to tell the truth as we see it. We make every effort to be kind in the telling.)
Ph.D., L.M.F.T., ACS
Mitra Rashidian, Ph.D., L.M.F.T., ACS, is an academic researcher, and a practicing clinician in sexual healthcare and cross-cultural sexuality, holding a full-time private practice located in Encino California. She holds a Ph.D. in Counseling from the University of New England, School of Health, in Australia is an an adjunct faculty and research member at the school. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of California, and a Certified Sexologist, through The American College of Sexologists – International.
Dr. Rashidian specializes in relationship and sexual enrichment. Her passion is to help couples to achieve and experience joy and fulfillment with their partners. "We all want everlasting happiness in our lives, and I believe that this is achievable. To do this successfully, I have devoted the past twenty-five years of my life in understanding the underlying causes that prevent couples from sharing and talking about their wants and desires with their partners."
Nothing gives Dr. Rashidian greater pleasure than to see each one of her clients happy and fulfilled with their partners. This journey became far more meaningful and empowering once she started partnership with Dr. Robert Jaffe, from 2004-present. Together, they developed several projects such as this radio show, to reach out to others globally. Their first book, entitled “Not Tonight Honey, I Have a Headache” is the result of the many years of joint efforts including the hard work of research and clinical practice.
Mitra says, "We believe, our new book provides a much deeper insight into couples’ challenges, who desire to experience the richness that true intimacy can bring."
Dr. Rashidian is a scientific author and writer, and the results of her research studies have been published in various scientific journals and books, plus, she has presented nationally and internationally on the same topics. She has been featured both as a host and as a guest speaker, on international television and radio programs.
Dr. Robert Jaffe is a licensed psychotherapist and certified hypnotherapist, who has been in full-time private practice since 1984. He works with adults and adolescents, and handles a wide variety of issues, specializing in the treatment of trauma, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, addiction, codependency, and relationships. He was the chief consulting therapist for Cri-Help Inc., a residential and outpatient treatment center in North Hollywood and Los Angeles, which has handled all types of addictions from 1985 through 2008.
Dr. Jaffe holds a Ph.D. in Philosophy/Hypnotherapy from the American Institute of Hypnotherapy, in Anaheim California, a Master of Science degree in Counseling Psychology from the University of La Verne, California and has been a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist since 1984.
Robert was born to a middle-class Jewish family with one younger sibling. His father owned a small business, and his mother was a stay-at-home mom. It appeared that all was normal, but the family secret was that his mother had bouts of depression alternating with fits of rage. At an early age, his younger sibling began using drugs, which eventually turned into a heroin addiction. Robert also was affected, and at an early age, began using sex and marijuana to cope with the insecurity and drama at home.
Robert started to become curious about the family undercurrents, which led him as an adult, to seek out his own psychotherapy. Eventually, he began to realize how trauma and addiction were first cousins, and decided at age thirty, to go back to school to become a psychotherapist. Now, thirty-seven years later, he devotes his professional life to helping others with trauma and addictions, as well as their detrimental impact on relationships.
Now, with over forty years of experience in the field, Dr. Jaffe assists people in overcoming their compulsive thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, in order to allow them to return to their loving authentic true selves, which he believes is every person’s birthright.